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1. sia - the girl you lost to cocaine. sometimes i feel this way about ben - i'm just taking care of a person. i feel like i'm forced into the role of caretaker and un-fun partner just because ben is brave or reckless enough to not be in control. i want to get back to the real me. the me that's fun, that enjoys life my way. i can't do that with ben not being an adult. what is being an adult? planning and knowing where you're going, so that you can enjoy the moment and steal this very moment for yourself and your loved ones. hmm. example...finances always feel unstable and unsteady? life feels very one-step-at-a-time, not planning for housing or anything. hmm or maybe it's me just getting the feeling of being an adult. maybe ben has already thought these things through and isn't letting it affect him. maybe i'm the one feeling the stress, not him. he always says to trust him more. well, i'm not giving up on that fight, until he shows me that he can be trusted.
2. i'm sick of reviews that talk about anything except the content of the thing that they're supposed to be reviewing. e.g. some movie reviewers, lots of pitchfork reviewers. they talk about the artist, their preceding style, and then the other things that the artist does. this is okay except that if you don't contextualise these things in terms of the current artwork, it's all meaningless and doesn't serve to justify your score for the artwork at all. basically, we need the EVIDENCE.
3. the NUS orientation games controversy about sexual harrassment. a lot of the people who have responded respond with things like "not all _____" or "what about this other thing _____". to them i say WHAT THE FUCK. you sound just like the #AllLivesMatter fucktards or the people complaining about reverse racism. read this comic.
basically, the issue is there. it's pressing and people are getting upset. fix it. stop justifying it with other things. this issue is urgent, and it's frankly unbecoming of a 21st century society and youth generation to deny or attempt to justify this. there is social upheaval and societal change. it should start with the think tanks, the universities, where the fresh blood is. come on singaporean young people. i believe in you to make this change among yourselves. to see that this is happening due to society's views of women's morality. and to change it such that women who are feeling this way are treated with respect and their views taken seriously (with thorough examination and evidence). to see that these women are unable to back out of these "games" due to peer pressure and expectations, which in turn come from wider society. these watered-down versions of misogyny need to stop here, at our universities and our schools and our NS military. it has to stop here.
i'll leave the whole "but universities are for DIVERSITY of views!" argument to another time. there are too many angles for that and opinions tend to be subjective, mine included.
